Resolutions – Shaking Up Our Paradigm

Happy New Year and happy resolution time! I love the start of a new year (or season for that matter) and there is nothing that is more fun for me than a bunch of post it notes and flip charts to organize all that I want to accomplish. Hubby and I are really good at projects; we met on a project and have been projecting together ever since. Give us a task list and we will go, go, go!

So why mess with a good thing? I mean stuff gets done, we continue to do stuff and we have more stuff on the horizon.

Do you notice the repetitive word here?  STUFF.

Along with all this stuff comes other stuff. Mostly in the form of exhaustion, anxiousness, and the feeling that this stuff will never all get done.

I posed the question to hubby this week (before the flip charts and markers) – “what if we spend so much time doing stuff to build the dream that we are missing living the dream?” The dream is really to be married to each other and enjoy our home, family and friends. What if our doing stuff gets in the way of that?

We started thinking about this and some of our thoughts and crazy ideas about this were:

  • What if our “big rocks” became things like hubby, me, us, family, friends, church?
  • What if our projects became the “little rocks”?
  • What would happen if we put time every week for fun and relaxation regardless of how many project tasks were crossed off a list?
  • What would happen if we had people over for dinner while our kitchen was a work in progress?
  • What if we did not have self induced deadlines for our projects but instead put deadlines on when we would have dinner with someone or when we would call someone?
  • What if we laughed more?
  • What if we lightened up?

Thus birthed our 2016 resolutions. We have our focus as Hubby, Me, Us, Family, Friends and Church. Sure the projects will continue but weekly our check points will be the focuses that we have identified.

It sounds great huh? I think so. BUT these will be the hardest resolutions we have ever made. Our comfort zone is post its, tasks lists and getting stuff done (there is that word again).  Deciding to play cards, read a book, go to a movie when there is stuff that needs done will TOTALLY put us out of our comfort zone. Leaving a comfort zone, even for the greater good is hard, hard, hard! Last night at dinner we talked about how we were already nervous about this and we are not even back from vacation yet! 🙂

In the end, if we can make some of these changes, what will we see? I am not fearful of stuff not getting done- that is just not in our DNA. BUT I am in hopes that we will focus more on relationships and the moment than deadlines and tasks. I think at the end of 2016, if successful we will be happier and will feel like it was the best year “ever!”

I am sharing this here for accountability. I have put this out there so you will keep tabs on me. I will keep you posted on our progress (and our slips).

Paradigms are hard to shake up. Comfort zones are hard to leave. But that is where the most growth comes right?

What about you? What are your dreams for 2016?

Happy New Year!